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I have an etiquette question for a wedding rehearsal dinner and reception. My daughter is having a very small wedding in November on the beach at sunrise on Paradise Island at the Atlantis Resort. It will be just the immediate family attending. that will be 11 of us. Is it proper etiquette to invite the wedding planner to either of these - the rehearsal dinner or the brunch after the ceremony? Exactly who should be invited, if anybody, other than the 11 of us?

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August 12 12:51 PM (24 minutes and 17 seconds later)
         
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In terms of etiquette, yes, it is proper to invite everyone involved in the wedding.

You will always want and/or need your wedding planner to be with you at every event. Even though you expect things to go well your wedding planner should be there to handle any problems or disputes during the big event.You you will want to make sure that all 11 of your guests are served well.

While the events are taking place and everyone is enjoying themselves it is the job of the wedding planner to keep an eye on things and prevent potential problems so that the flow of everyone having fun does not interrupted because one of the caterers had a question or someone delivering the flowers needs someone to sign the ticket. When you run out of beverages you will want someone who can ask to have more brought to the table without you having to think about it.

The duties of the wedding planner is supposed to extend past the actual exchanging of the vows. Also, when your planner is at the brunch and rehersal dinner, that gives the family the opportunity to ask questions and make suggestions.
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August 12 1:05 PM (13 minutes and 29 seconds later)
         
Reply to Jack Scotty's Post: I understand what you are saying about the wedding planner needing to be there. That's kind of why we hired her. More specifically, should there be an actual place set for her at the table? and what about the others who would be involved? the photographer, justice of the peace, etc.Where do you drew the line?
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August 12 7:08 PM (6 hours and 3 minutes and 28 seconds later)
         
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Greetings:

One cannot invite everyone! However, if other than immediate family were told they would be invited, then it is proper etiquette to formally invite them - otherwise, it is not necessary.

If you wish, you can formally invite them to the reception (brunch after the ceremony). You can state in your invite that the ceremony itself is private, held to family members, but that the bride and groom welcome their presence at the reception (brunch)....thus, you can have a place setting for the wedding planner, photographer, etc. (they have to know where they are going to sit - and it's not unusual or out of place to have such a set up for certain guests, even if they have been hired, they should still be made to feel welcomed).

I hope this helped. If you wish for further information, please let me know.

Thank you.

Bright Blessings.

Peace, Love & Happiness,

The Mystic Wave



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August 13 9:48 AM (14 hours and 39 minutes and 33 seconds later)
         
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Place settings are not necessary for those who will be involved. It would be courteous to feed them, however they are there "on assignment" more so than being there as your guests so it wouldnt be poor etiquette to not make a special place for them. They cant be distiguished guests AND employees of the wedding.
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